Social Anxiety: 1/3 Why improving social skills is not the answer Video

Watch 2 of 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4_TCEYi244

I explain why improving your social skills is not the answer to overcoming Social Phobia or social anxiety. There is a related article on my blog http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/improving-social-skills

I hate when my mind ...
I hate when my mind goes blank. I guess I've developed selective mutism and whenver I get upset my bf asks me what's wrong and I just wont speak mostly because I can't think of how to explain what I'm? feeling and I totally shut down. it makes him really frustrated and I've tried to tell him what is going on with my head when that happens. I'm glad there are other ppl out there who can relate and it's just not me who has these issues!

Hey people check ...
Hey people check out TrumpAnxiety(dot)com as a free resource for getting rid of all things social phobia!?

I'm? so glad I ...
I'm? so glad I found this video. This IS me.

You? just read my ...
You? just read my personality to the teeth.

how? do you know me ...
how? do you know me! LOL

just show up that ...
just show up that you're reading. you don't need to hide it and pretend that you share information on your? own

What is the human ...
What is the human races' specialty? It is they mind everybody elses business but their own. They constantly scrutinize, evaluate and judge others often negatively rather than positively. If you get disapproved of by other human beings you are not the only one. Remember it is just their opinion of you. But also remember that? you have an opinion of them. i do not subscribe to the idea that social phobia happens when you judge youself negatively. You can judge yourself positively and still get nerv

I have suffered ...
I have suffered from social anxiety and it has got to the point to where I can't get a job? (I start to freak out when? the time comes to go for the interview). I can't walk in stores. I started a blog to talk about my problems and also to start a project to see if it's possible to make a living from? blogging. I'm trying a few different ways to make money and plan to report my progress. Here is the address for anyone interested :) Project Social Anxiety projectsa(dot)x10(dot)mx

@randman21 No 26 y ...
@randman21 No 26 y o is far from too late late to deal with this problem. 26 is actually very young. Developmental Psychology would say you aren't even an adult yet. You are still in the stage of emerging adulthood. You will always improve as long as you keep at it. Don't expect overnight miracles. Realize that the path will often seem like you are improving and then not or even getting worse. Just preservere and things will improve. This has been my experience and? I'm 43. Good luck

Use Holosync!!?
Use Holosync!!?

yeah my meds help, ...
yeah my meds help, therapy not so much.. but when i went off the meds i had like anger managment, whihc was weird, and even on the meds im an anxious person, but? oh man when i was off of them it was just a baddd experience..

This video (and ...
This video (and Nick) is so brilliant that I just want to cry. It's almost scary how much I relate to everything? he says. Just yesterday, I was googling "improving social skills". The more I saw and read, the more I thought "I already know all this s**t...so what the hell is wrong with me?!" I've known I've had Social Phobia for a while, but now that I'm watching all of Nick's videos, I'm ready right now to kick this problem. This may sound silly, but do you guys think 26 years old is too late?

@poobearpanda345 ...
@poobearpanda345 I'll be your friend!? :(

@zombierunner1987 ...
@zombierunner1987 I've been to parties, and I've been to work as well...I tried getting to know most people and made an effort, but for some reason they feel so uncomfortable around me. Is it the way I look? Is it the way I sound? I really don't mean to come off as rude, but I guess these days people love that bubbly social butterfly...I only have a few friends that understand my? SA.

yep?
yep?

Almost my entire ...
Almost my entire life has turned into trying to fix this f**king horrible disorder... I tried for 3 years and then gave up like zombierunner1987 but I'm not like that I couldn't leave it now I'm just so f**king desperate to get rid of this horrid disorder!! Why the f**k was I born with this s**t f**k I have severe social anxiety? one of my friends sometimes says "you can't be a pussy your whole life" he doesn't get it its not being a pussy its a f**king chemical imbalance that causes TERROR

I think I need to ...
I think I need to try them I guess? to see how they work for me. But thats interesting, thanks for the advice :)

It's different for ...
It's different for everyone but for me, they just make me feel much less stressed? and calmer and more care-free. I can control myself in situations I fear rather than getting wound up and panicky. I can actually participate in a group discussion rather than sitting there, terrified of having a panic attack.

what do anti- ...
what do anti-depressants do? Do they just make you feel happy or? do they make social situations easier or what? Thanks

whether it be that ...
whether it be that one close? friend or a teacher or your family or even a psychologist or psychiatrist. I started taking medication for it and it honestly did help me a lot. If you have a negative attitude you need to change that. you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else or be loved. believe me you'll get through it if you really want too.

I had really bad ...
I had really bad social anxiety when? i was younger. social anxiety is something you CAN come over. I'm proof of that. The key for me was I had a really good teacher who I could talk to. I'm gay and I literally felt like there was something wrong with me. I used to avoid social situations, i used to be so afraid of people finding out. However I learned that I'm fine just the way I am and that everyone is different. I learned to love myself and u will too. The key is having people to talk to

I used to have ...
I used to have social anxiety REALLY bad. I was the kid that sat in the back of the class, tried to avoid presentations, etc. I still have? anxiety but it's not nearly as bad as before. My only "secret" was I did everything to change myself. Don't listen to people about that "Be yourself" bulls**t. I started getting on the treadmill, lost 40 pounds, got some highlights, started wearing Hollister instead of walmart clothes... Then bam, ppl naturally started talking to ME. Does good for confidence.

lol is this getting ...
lol is this getting somewhere? its not exactly? making me feel better...

I know what? you ...
I know what? you mean man... it's a life wrecker

just smoke weed it ...
just smoke weed it is the answer for everything?

unfortunately i ...
unfortunately i think i've been? learning this the hard way throughout the course of my college career...

lol i got social ...
lol i got social anxiety and ibs lol....my ibs was brought on throught the social anxiety, i get stomach cramps - tummy goes crazy when i am put in a? room with lots of people.